May Meditation Nudge 26

This is an ongoing series running through May to compliment the twice weekly meditation sessions that I will be hosting on YouTube. If you have any questions, please contact me.


Breaking my own suggestions
I titled one of the earlier articles in this Nudge series, “Beware of waiting for silence before you meditate.” While I believe that the advice that I offer in that piece is important, I am now going to apparently contradict myself!

There are times when the noise of life is getting to me. If I was to use an analogy, it is as though my mind is a glass of muddy water that has been shaken up so much that it is not possible to see the clarity of the water. I need to spend some time to allow that mud to settle, and get my clarity of mind back. For me this is exacerbated as I am an introvert and high sensitive person (HSP). I will find myself getting overwhelmed by external distractions that might not even register on the radar of the more extroverted amongst us. At times I simply need to take a break, have a rest and recharge. That rest can take on the look of say quiet time by myself reading a book, but I have also found meditation can play a part in this. Simply sitting, watching the breath, noting the thoughts and noise in my head as they distract me, and returning to the breath. With time the noise in my head settles, my mind becomes clearer, I feel lighter (both mentally and physically) and better able to reengage with the world.

The trick is to remember not to see meditation as an escape to a quieter place, as I warn in the Nudge article linked to above. Meditation can offer itself as a tool to bring the mind to a quieter place, but meditation can also offer so much more than that. For those times that I need to quieten my mind, when the sense of overwhelm that I am experiencing is hurting me, meditation can be one method available to get me to a healthier place. But remember that we then have to step out into the world which is far from quiet. It is then that I can use the Swiss Army knife of tools that meditation offers to help me deal with the vicissitudes of life, and perhaps help to keep some of the noise at bay before it starts to overwhelm me.

It’s raining right now. The forecast is for overcast weather through the day, and the likelihood of more rain. For the most part I will be by myself today. Overcast, rain and by myself feel like ideal working conditions for me.

An observation, no judgements, just an observation.

Extrovert and introvert sit outside together on a beautiful evening, to eat dinner.

Extrovert sits there exclaiming enthusiastically and describing the scene.

Introvert sits there, saying nothing, just taking it all in.

One of the things that I like about being an introvert is being happy and secure in my own company. In fact sometimes I have to be careful that I do not get too comfortable with that. I do have a family and friends after all! I sneaked in a past #mbnov word for good measure. 😁

I love meeting new people and the company of others, but as an introvert I sometimes just need to be alone. Please don’t take it personally. At times it is simply a need that I have in order just to be in the world.

Tonight is the monthly meeting of the Introvert/Highly Sensitive men’s group here on Maui. I started it about 19 months ago, unsure if there would be a call for it. Now it is a fixture on the calendar.

I have just put the 2nd edition of my Meditation eBook up on my website. Although titled that it is aimed at introverts and highly sensitive people, anyone who wishes to build a meditation practice will find benefit in it.

I have finally put my book on building a Meditation practice, along with tips on how meditation can help introverts and HSPs, up onto my website.

An Incredible Journey

Being introverted or highly sensitive doesn’t fit the archetypal image of a male, but some of us are just wired that way. I wanted to give men a place where they can talk about it.

A recent article about me that appeared in The Maui News.

Just before the men arrived for the 3rd gathering of Introvert/HSP I-Group here on Maui.

Finding stillness in quiet reflections. New on the blog - finding nourishment in life as an introvert and/or hsp when you feel shaken up - link in the bio.

“Boxes, boxes everywhere, and still no place to sit,” with apologies to Hemmingway. With a recent move it feels as though we have been unpacking boxes forever. It has been a real patience practice as I yearn to get back to more creative endeavors, as well as my introverted nature calling out for some solitary time.

However for all that, I mustn’t loose site of the fact that we are blessed with a beautiful new house.

Sitting in complete silence in our new Barn. Complete silence and stillness such that my ears are ringing. It is in such situations that I can come to peace. The commotion in my mind settles. My heart settles, my body settles, my breathing settles. And with that comes an inner stillness, and greater perspective becomes possible.

The introvert’s mind is busy. Noisier than the extrovert’s. Introverts spend a lot of time in their minds. It is how we are wired. And living with all that noise can become overwhelming at times, exhausting. External noise just adds to the inner noise that we are living with.

In contrast, external silence can allow the noise in our minds to settle, like the dirt in a glass of muddy water.

Meditation Tips for Introverts and Highly Sensitive People.

I’m pleased to announce the 2nd edition of my eBook, “Meditation Tips for Introverts and Highly Sensitive People.” The book looks at how meditation can help introverts & HSP’s. There are instructions on how to develop a regular meditation practice, how to deal with obstacles that arise and expectations that we put onto ourselves. Further ideas are explored for how you can take meditation out into your daily life

This new edition has a completely new chapter looking at building boundaries into our lives and how that can help our meditation practice. Along with that I have revised the text, changed and added some images, and included some ‘boxes’ interspersed through the text which give suggestions as to how you can take your meditation practice into your daily life.

For more information and to find out how you can get a copy of the book, follow this link. If you have any comments or questions, please do get in touch.